Becoming a mother was the most amazing moment of my life but no one told me that would come with "other mom baggage". What I mean by that is, mothers that can't help but dictate how you need to mother. Don't get me wrong I love when mothers like to share there experiences and give there motherly thoughts about things, as I do that too but there is a line that is crossed by a lot of mothers that just annoy me. I became a mother on my own terms and I will parent the way that I feel is right for my kids. I love being a mother and that is why I chose this path in life. Where does it say that a woman that mothered before I did are better or know more?
As mothers I think that we all know that there are flaws in everyone and when a mother reaches out to you, you do not need to make them feel like there incapable of taking care of their children. Rather let them know if there was a similar situation that you may have, what took care of it and what not. I just feel there are to many people criticizing. We are not hear to judge.
How is it my right to tell a mother how to be a mother? Where does it say I have that power? I don't. I can not tell a mother anything about her children as she is the one that knows them best and knows how to care for them. But if a mother is to ask "Megan what would you do?" Yes I would tell her, but not in the matter that I make her feel like this is the only way and any other is just not right. I just want mothers to know this. You are doig a great Job, even when you feel you are loosing it and want to throw in the towel. reach out to a friend, take a break its ok! Its not bad for a mother to take time for herself and to allow rest into her life. I feel that I can't be a good mother without rest and me time. This may be going to lunch with friends, pillow talk with my husband or just taking a bath without children at the door. So please mom's lets just let us be what we are, maturnal creatures doing what we do best.
So why is this still taboo? I Just want to take a small moment to tell other people that do not choose to breastfeed or that are not okay with it, I don't care! I do my best to respect those around me in public, but the staring and the rude comments are not nessisary, NUF said.
No one can prepar you for your child to turn into twice what you were as a child. I feel sometimes that I must have done something wrong to allow my child to act this way or say these things, then I wonder, "Where did she learn this? I if not from me where?" That statmente has saved me from tearing myself down as a mother. I know now that she learn from everyone that surrounds her, she will forever and always be under the influence of others. I would like to tell myself that she would never learn a naughty word or do a naughty thing, but that is just not reality. So I take toddler-hood like this, I am a great mother and I do my best to sheild her from the evil in this world, but I must remember that she is her own person, even at the small at of 3 she is so smart. Children are like a sponge and she will be sucking in the information and actions of others her whole life, my job is that I teacher her and give her the right skills to know what is good and what is bad. After that I can just leave my wisdom in her mind and hope it catches on.
To be continued.............