Saturday, March 12, 2011

{coming to grips with reality}



I think I need to share this. I had Epiphany, having children is something that I wanted and needed in my life. ever sense I was little and I was pretty much raising my brothers, I knew that motherhood was what I was destine for. So when I got pregnant with my first I was excited and didn't think much of the changes that would be happening to my body. I knew that my stomach was going to be getting bigger but, I didn't think I was going to have the health issues that would cause a 97lbs weight gain! 

That being said I was overall still happy with my belly, but one day I just woke up and looked in the mirror and there they were, staring me in the face. The bright red, deep, throbbing and disgusting stretch marks. I was devastated! I was so upset that there went 8 months with no stretch marks and boom!!! I then just brushed them off only to forget during the rest of my pregnancy. 

Soon after I has Emma, at 35 weeks. She was a c-section baby due to health related issues. I began to notice the change in my body, I was very much bigger then I was when I started. I didn't fit into any clothing in my closet and could not were anything close to the skin as there was so much extra around my mid-section. This depressed me. I was embarrassed of my "new" look and body. I didn't feel like my husband could look at me the same way. 

All this being said, I was reading a article the other day about motherhood and the changes that happen and I realized this. I NEEDED TO CHANGE. My children made me the way that I am, I got the pleasure to carry and grow them in my body. My body was a sacred vessel! So why would it not change right? Why would I think that pregnancy and bearing a child would not change how my body is formed and the marks on it. Every single mark that both my children gave me are only another reminder that I have two beautiful children! I got all that I have now from becoming a mother, and I want to say this. I am DAMN proud! I am proud that I still cant bend over with my stomach hanging over my jeans, that I cant wear  2 piece swimwear as there are stretch marks in places they should not be. 

I know there are mothers that go back to "normal" after having children, but I am glad and proud that mine altered who I am physically and mentally. Tell me what is "normal" anyway? the average woman is a size 14 and I am a 10, so according to the national average I am SKINNY. So here is to all the mothers with the Mom Body! I love and embrace mine and you should too! 



7 comments:

Hannah said...

Even though I was able to lose most of the baby weight, I still have saggy skin in places, stretch marks that won't fade (even on my butt!) and boobs that will never be as perky as before. But I agree with you, I'm HAPPY with my mom body, because of all the joy my daughter brought when she was born. And hey, who says you can't still feel sexy with stretch marks? I say they're my battle scars ;P

Megan Rockenbach said...

Thats what I call them too! and hey my husband loves me and that is all that matters

Katy said...

Great post! I am almost back to my pre-pregnancy weight, but no where as fit as I was before. Just have to accept it!

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Cari said...

Great post, great perspective. I think of wrinkles the same way:)

Mel said...

I definitely agree that, while it's hard to let go of the "ideal" post baby body image, it's totally worth it. It's taken me some time, and yeah a few lbs lost, to make me feel a little more like my normal self. I'm far from what I used to be and, like you, my body is altered forever. If/when I do lose all the weight I gained I'll still have extra tummy skin and many stretch marks to remind me of my journey. It's nice to feel okay with those things. Finally.

Ellie Hirsch-Mommy Masters said...
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Ellie Hirsch-Mommy Masters said...

You go girl! I definitely believe your body changes after giving birth but who says it can't be even better? Sure certain clothes fit me differently than before kids but that is what I signed up for and WHO CARES? Being pregnant and giving birth, both vaginally and via C Section is something to be SOOOOO proud of. We see all of these stars who are in a bikini 3 weeks after having a baby. Yah, if I had a trainer every day and a personal chef, I would look like that too. We are only human and can't live up to anyone else's expecations of what we are supposed to look like. I agree with you and we should be proud of our war wounds! Vising from Mommy Masters and am now following. Also visited you on Facebook. Please come check out my blog at www.mommymasters.blogspot.com and follow back. Looking forward to your comments too!

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